Tuesday, January 8, 2013


Are you comfortable eating out in a restaurant alone?  I'm not and never have been.  Michael does it all the time and doesn't think twice about it.  I will go without eating and let my blood sugar bottom out before I eat out alone.  Pretty pathetic, I know.  I want to get over this, so I took an afternoon to do some shopping and then treat myself to lunch.  Alone. By myself.  I went to Cheeseburger in Paradise because I love their fried pickles and grilled salmon salad.  I sat in the parking lot about ten minutes before I found the courage to get out of the car and go inside.  It wasn't too bad but it was 2:30 in the afternoon so it wasn't crowded.  I can't say I enjoyed myself.  I couldn't wait to get out of there.  But I will try it again because it's just one of those things I want to change.

After lunch, I went for a drive with the intention of taking pictures.  I love taking pictures but am uncomfortable stopping the car on the side of the road or standing in a parking lot to get a shot.  I'm afraid someone will get mad or tell me to stop.  Again, pretty pathetic.  I WILL get over this!  The first picture was a tree I parked next to at the restaurant.  I've wanted to take pictures of the little white church since the first time I saw it a few years ago.  I took several pics but this is the only one I liked.  Since no one came out and told me I couldn't take pictures, I'm slightly less afraid to go back!  The rest of the pictures are from tourist sites so it didn't bother me to stop there.  I would like to go back when the lighting is better.  From there I went to the Potomac River to watch the sun set.  I'll show you those pictures another day.

Is there a fear or something that makes you uncomfortable that you would like to overcome?

xo Annette xo


  1. When eating lunch alone and waiting for my meal to arrive - I catch up on email via my cell phone...just a thought. ;)

  2. Good for you on both counts! I don't mind eating by myself at all because I've done it forever, starting from when I worked at a mall in high school. I ate many a dinner alone working nights! Since I have my camera attached to me so much, I never stopped to think if anyone thought it was weird! Talking to people I don't know freaks me out. In person, I mean. I try really hard to break myself of that.

  3. Hooray for you for confronting your fears! Great photos, too.

    I am afraid of driving over bridges.
    I do it, but it is always a white knuckles experience!

  4. Good for you. I am not that comfortable with eating out alone, but I do it. Always like to have a magazine, paper or book.. that helps me. Public speaking would be my worst fear... but i am not about to overcome it any time soon!

  5. Congrats on facing your fears!
    If I'm eating out alone, I always bring my phone and check email or bring a magazine. It keeps me from thinking everyone is looking at me.
    And I'm afraid to take photos sometimes too. I love all the fall trees, but am afraid someone will think I'm crazy taking pictures in front of their house!
    Love your tree with berries shot...glad you stopped to get that one!

  6. I have a hard time with those things as well Annette! I also have a hard time when where I am at is crowded...ie the Commissary on payday...I get agitated around people I don't know and always afraid to try something new in fear of being a failure. Sometimes I have a hard time even leaving the house. I know, it isn't the old me that you knew in Hawaii

  7. You go girl! Keep driving around and taking pictures. I think that is what photographers do and you absolutely have a good eye and a natural talent for it! I have a freind who takes good pictures and told me about sitting on a park bench waiting for a whole hour for the light to be just right. You are THAT kind of talented!
    As for the eating alone, I hate it. I tried to overcome it once about 10 years ago. I went to the restaurant and they acted like I was invisible and wouldn't seat me. It was awful.

  8. Good for you Annette!

    I don't have a hard time eating by myself, though it's not something I do often. I like to take pictures too and always wonder if someone might come up and tell me to move away or something, but so far not. :)

    I think the thing that used to really bother me was going out in public (market, shopping etc...) if I wasn't dressed up and makeup, like I was going to work. As I've gotten older I've definitely gotten more comfortable in my own skin and will run out in jeans and no makeup and not think twice about it anymore. It's liberating in a way and of course I always run in to someone I know!! :-p

  9. I totally understand about the photo taking thingy, I am always thinking I can't so this, then I tell myself I can, I have learned a lot about what is legally permitted and what is not, which is helpful. But I think people are more interested in the pictures I am taking than worried I am stealing secrets, LOL!! :)

    I do not eat out very often by myself but it really has never bothered me.

    I just lump all my fear into elevators, LOL!!!

    Have a lovely evening, cheers, T. :)

  10. I applaud you for taking the first steps to try eating out alone. I understand how you felt as I have always felt awkward and uncomfortable when dinning out alone. I have noticed that a number of solo diners bring along something to occupy themselves with, such as a laptop, newspaper, cross word puzzle, book or kindle - I'm sure this would help divert one's attention as no one really likes to have others watch them as they eat. Guess that could be a primitive instinct of mankind. :) So maybe I'll tuck a book under my arm and try going out to eat alone someday soon. ;)

    Annette I think your photos are marvelous - I really love the little white church with its unpretentious steeple, and I adore the photo of the wrought iron gate, made me stop and study it for quite some time.

  11. Great collection of photos! Good for you for getting out of your comfort zone and doing things that scare you a little. It is a great start to making big changes in the new year. I hope you have many great adventures all year long. Can't wait to hear about your next one!
    Everyday Inspired

  12. I am new to your blog, but i am hooked! Ok, I have a fear - a huge one - of Elevators! After I got stuck in one when I was 24. The fear is so strong that not a single time I go in the lift, my heartbeat remains normal! And if it slows down or give a slight bump, I go paranoid. I really WANT to get over this!


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